When someone new comes into our life, we are determined to assign them some kind of "title". Based on our comfort level with them, our understanding with them, we care to define our relation with them. These definitions come with emotions. And these emotions grow every time we think of that person. The titles help you determine how you feel about that person.
Would you ever be able to have a relation where there is no definition? I used to think NO, we cannot.
But then one day, someone comes into your life, and your mind and heart are not able to give a "title" to that person. You try hard, consciously or not, to define the relation with them. But you fail, every time. No exception.
Would you ever be able to have a relation where there is no definition? I used to think NO, we cannot.
But then one day, someone comes into your life, and your mind and heart are not able to give a "title" to that person. You try hard, consciously or not, to define the relation with them. But you fail, every time. No exception.
How do you decide things with that person then? How to define the boundaries with them? How to determine what is good and what is not? How to achieve the comfort level with them? Are you even comfortable? Is that person comfortable? If yes, how much? If no, what can I do? Is this even a serious relation? Will this last? For how long?
You have unlimited number of questions because of that person, as there is no assurance.
But then, something amazing happens which assures you of the relation. You can still not define it, but you know that it can last forever. You still have your doubts, but a little less of those now. You realize that this is totally different from those relations, where you know what you feel, and this makes you more restless.
But you feel you can trust the person. This is the first feeling you get about that person - TRUST. The most important feeling that can help you determine the relations. You're still unaware of the definition, but something the person did has moved you. This is where you take the leap of faith, let things flow from here. You let yourself believe that person.
This is the next feeling - BELIEF. Though not as big as trust, but an important feeling to build a relationship. You believe the person, you know they are not fake. You know that whatever they say is true, is real. You let them take you on a ride of thoughts.
That person may not really be in contact with you everyday, but you believe that you can trust the person for anything you need. On some days, you can have non-stop nonsense chats with that person, and you know that person is not going to judge you on anything. The person helps you through odds, and you know that you can put anything in front of them. Of course you know that they trust you, because they made it clear from the conversations you had on WhatsApp.
Then comes a time, when you get to know that the person would be traveling far away. You're not sure if you are comfortable with that, but you know that you cannot stop them. Or more important- Do you want to stop them? Will that make a huge difference to you? Is it really necessary to stop them?
Before getting the answers of these questions, you come to know that they already have gone. But you're OK with that. You're fine with the fact that they are miles away from you. You can easily live with that. They did contact you once they reached the destination!! That's what matters!
You both go your ways, but there is still one question- How do you define your relationship with that person? Can you give a title to them?
The answer is NO. Maybe in the future, you might be able to define something, but its better not to try. It would be typical. As they say- some things are best left unexplained. Let this relation be undefined, untitled.
I think everyone should have at least one untitled relation in their life. These people are those pieces of your life, which are small but very important to finish the puzzle. They do not need any special attention from you, but you know that whenever you talk to them, it will be the same. They won't change. They'll always be the same with you. They are important to you, and you are too.
These people don't engage you in some typical bonds - Friend, Best friend, Brother, Sister, etc. No, they do not fit in these. That is why they are called - UNTITLED. 😊
Thank you Pranav, for being the Untitled person in my life. I cannot give you a title of friend, because you are much more than that. I cannot call you Best Friend, because it gives rise to expectations and limitations. You have been with me at times when even I left myself alone. You might always remain the untitled person in my life, but I believe that's OK. At least I have one title for you - Pranav! 😜
But you feel you can trust the person. This is the first feeling you get about that person - TRUST. The most important feeling that can help you determine the relations. You're still unaware of the definition, but something the person did has moved you. This is where you take the leap of faith, let things flow from here. You let yourself believe that person.
This is the next feeling - BELIEF. Though not as big as trust, but an important feeling to build a relationship. You believe the person, you know they are not fake. You know that whatever they say is true, is real. You let them take you on a ride of thoughts.
That person may not really be in contact with you everyday, but you believe that you can trust the person for anything you need. On some days, you can have non-stop nonsense chats with that person, and you know that person is not going to judge you on anything. The person helps you through odds, and you know that you can put anything in front of them. Of course you know that they trust you, because they made it clear from the conversations you had on WhatsApp.
Then comes a time, when you get to know that the person would be traveling far away. You're not sure if you are comfortable with that, but you know that you cannot stop them. Or more important- Do you want to stop them? Will that make a huge difference to you? Is it really necessary to stop them?
Before getting the answers of these questions, you come to know that they already have gone. But you're OK with that. You're fine with the fact that they are miles away from you. You can easily live with that. They did contact you once they reached the destination!! That's what matters!
You both go your ways, but there is still one question- How do you define your relationship with that person? Can you give a title to them?
The answer is NO. Maybe in the future, you might be able to define something, but its better not to try. It would be typical. As they say- some things are best left unexplained. Let this relation be undefined, untitled.
I think everyone should have at least one untitled relation in their life. These people are those pieces of your life, which are small but very important to finish the puzzle. They do not need any special attention from you, but you know that whenever you talk to them, it will be the same. They won't change. They'll always be the same with you. They are important to you, and you are too.
These people don't engage you in some typical bonds - Friend, Best friend, Brother, Sister, etc. No, they do not fit in these. That is why they are called - UNTITLED. 😊
Thank you Pranav, for being the Untitled person in my life. I cannot give you a title of friend, because you are much more than that. I cannot call you Best Friend, because it gives rise to expectations and limitations. You have been with me at times when even I left myself alone. You might always remain the untitled person in my life, but I believe that's OK. At least I have one title for you - Pranav! 😜
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